The Real Reason Kendra Wilkinson And Hank Baskett Split

Kendra Wilkinson went from being a party girl and one of Playboy founder Hugh Hefner's many girlfriends on the E! series The Girls Next Door, to becoming a wife and mother of two in the blink of an eye. She decided to hang up her bunny ears in 2008 when she met former professional football player Hank Baskett, and what came next included the couple's June 2009 announcement that they were expecting a child and later that same month, they walked down the aisle at the Playboy mansion to become husband and wife.

Two children later, the couple has spent the majority of its marriage in front of reality TV cameras on their WE tv show, Kendra on Top, and sadly, it didn't take long for the duo to crack under pressure. From cheating allegations to battles with depression, this union appeared to be hanging on by a thread. By April 2018, Wilkinson confirmed the divorce rumors in a heartbreaking admission. Despite their best efforts, here's the real reason Kendra Wilkinson and Hank Baskett split.

When Wilkinson was eight months pregnant with their daughter, Alijah, the former football player approached a couple in an attempt to score some pot, reported People. The couple reportedly gave Baskett a phone number to call, and he was later led to a house. After using the restroom at the home, he emerged and was reportedly greeted by a transgender woman in the nude. "I froze," Baskett said, recalling the incident. He later admitted he was fondled by the woman.

Wilkinson was reportedly tipped off about the dirt right before the news hit the press. Baskett initially denied the allegation, until it was revealed the woman had taken a lie detector test to corroborate her story, reported People.

Wilkinson, who was rightfully ticked off, flushed her wedding rings down the toilet. A source said she was trying to be strong throughout the scandal but would cry "every day."

"I messed up," Baskett told People. "I put myself in a bad situation. And everything through me brought pain upon this family."

After the incident, the couple focused on rebuilding the relationship. "It's going to take a lifetime to trust him again," Wilkinson told Us Weekly.

When trust is broken, it's difficult for a relationship to recover, and this was something Wilkinson had to find out the hard way.

When the couple appeared on the Steve Harvey talk show in 2017, Wilkinson admitted she had "divorce on my mind" during the cheating scandal. She found herself dealing with an internal battle: She wanted to be single, but she also wanted the "freedom to explore mentally, but not physically" with other people. Baskett agreed to let her roam, but under one condition: She wasn't allowed to "cross the line."

"It's not like you get the best of both worlds. I was like, you know, 'Go out' — she was hanging out with people, people would text her — but I would rather that, than her sneak around and hide things," he said.

During that time, Wilkinson even reconnected with a man from her past, reported E! News. She admitted that she still had feelings for him, but she reassured Baskett that "nothing ever happened physically, or nothing even crossed the line."

To most people, taking the time to be technically single while still being legally married sounds like a recipe for even more trust issues. It's obvious their unconventional approach to mending their relationship was a flop, but we'll get into that in a bit.

Baskett spent the majority of his professional football career bouncing around to various teams, including the Philadelphia Eagles and the Indianapolis Colts. Perhaps he didn't end his NFL tenure as a Hall of Fame player, but at least he was gainfully employed while putting all of his heart and soul into the sport that he loved, no?

This could explain why he found it difficult to adjust to life after football when his career puttered out following the 2010 season. "The stress and depression was eating away at me," he told People magazine. "I fell into what happens to a lot of professional athletes who change careers. It hit me, and it hit hard."

He turned to marijuana and alcohol and was prescribed antidepressants. "I was drinking like I had never drank before," he said, revealing that he would get the shakes and cry in the shower due to his severe anxiety.

Wilkinson, who was pregnant with their daughter at the time, admitted she was a horrible support system for him during his lowest point. "Anytime he said, 'Kendra, I'm not feeling too good,' I would say, 'Shut up, I'm pregnant!' I never gave him the opportunity to come to me with his feelings." she said.

A source told People magazine in March 2018 that Baskett and Wilkinson had ditched their wedding rings, saying Wilkinson had "really lost trust in her marriage and she's realized there's no turning back."

All of the scandals — as well as their arguments, depression, and on-camera fights — had taken a toll. According to the insider, "Kendra is just not happy. They bicker all the time and she hasn't been able to trust him."

It didn't help that Wilkinson's Las Vegas gig supposedly drove an even bigger wedge between them. "They've grown further and further apart especially while she was in Vegas. He would come to visit her and she went back home about once a week, but it was really hard on them," the source said. 

Wilkinson even revealed that during that time, going their separate ways was always on their radar. "We have already threatened divorce probably five times," she told In Touch Weekly.

As things between them went from blissful to rocky, Wilkinson and Bassett tried desperately to keep their relationship afloat. They attended couples therapy sessions, and they even tried to reignite the spark they once felt by going on a golf date. Although their outing was marred by a public screaming match, it was apparent they were fighting for their marriage, albeit they would ultimately lose the battle when Wilkinson filed for divorce on April 6, 2018, citing irreconcilable differences. 

But in the days leading up to the divorce news, Wilkinson took to her Instagram Stories (via People) to pour her heart out. "Ten years," she said with tears streaming down her face. "I did everything I could. It wasn't good enough."

As the videos continued, one after the other, she confessed to her loyal followers that her heart "will always remain open for him." However, chances for a future reconciliation seem slim. "I believed in forever, I really did," she said. "Guess it's just not meant to be."

Although Baskett is described as being "an amazing father" to their two children, the former couple's different parenting styles were cited as a potential catalyst for their split. A source told People, "Kendra's personality is much more proactive and commanding, but Hank has a quiet strength."

That said, their clashing approaches to childrearing reportedly didn't change the way they loved and cared for their kids. "They're honestly both incredible, devoted, hands-on parents. They don't miss practices or life moments and will do anything to protect their kids," the source added. "Their family is so important to both of them ... Whatever happens, they'll stay close because their kids mean too much to them. They'll always be in each other's lives."

Conflicting parenting styles don't always cause a relationship to crash, but in the case of Wilkinson and Baskett, it obviously didn't bode well for their struggling marriage.