The Real Reason Why Dorinda Medley And John Mahdessian Broke Up

The Real Housewives of New York star, Dorinda Medley, opened up about the end of her relationship with John Mahdessian. On a recent episode of the reality show, Dorinda said, "The breakup with John is sad. I mean, it's terrible, but I also know that I have to do what's best for me now. And I've realized that my expectation levels have grown," according to Bravo.

Troubles in their relationship were first spotted by Page Six back in September 2019, but the outlet only spoke about Dorinda "taking a break" from her dry-cleaning connoisseur and long-term partner. At the time, it sounded like a pause in the relationship, as Page Six said of Dorinda and John: "It's complicated. They've been together seven years and just hit a rough patch. They're working through some things."

However, on the most recent episode of RHONY from May 2020, Dorinda explained that her separation from John is, in fact, permanent. She said: "This is what I want now. This is what I need. And I need to find the right partner that's willing to be engaged in that. And I don't think that's bad. I think that's honesty," according to Bravo.

So what went down in the split between Dorinda Medley and John Mahdessian?

John Mahdessian loves going out while Dorinda Medley likes to stay in

A cause of conflict between Dorinda Medley and John Mahdessian was the difference in their lifestyle preferences. This became an ongoing issue, according to People, because Dorinda and John had been together for seven years before parting ways.

These issues were reported as far back as September 2019, when it was announced that they were taking a break. According to Page Six, John loves to "attend the opening of an envelope, and she goes out for work, but she's really low-key. He's all about being the guy on the town since she's been on the show."

On the most recent episode of The Real Housewives of New York from May 14, 2020, Dorinda said to audiences: "Endings are painful, but they're sometimes good and healthy and needed," per Bravo.

She added: "It's so easy just to keep communicating and just falling into old habits. Because I have a feeling if I didn't do this, it would just keep staying plateaued for 10 years, 15 years. And then what?"

But Dorinda stressed that she'll always love John. There's no bad blood between them but they just happened to grow apart. According to Bravo, she said: "I love John and I'll always love John. There's no big fight." Dorinda added that John would "always have a seat at" her table.

Did Dorinda Medley ever get to grieve her late husband, Richard?

Dorinda Medley has had a really tough year. She told People in April 2020 that she was recovering from a broken rib. Not only that but she was remodeling her new apartment in New York City, plus she was doing a massive repair on her house in Great Barrington, Massachusetts, when a horrendous flood destroyed most of her belongings and home. Sounds pretty stressful!

Dorinda lost her husband, Richard Medley, in 2011, according to People, and met John Mahdessian shortly afterwards. In the midst of this tough breakup from John, Dorinda said she's realizing she never fully grieved Richard and this might be her chance to do it. She said: "I'm making the decision to be alone and it's the first time I am okay with it."

According to Bravo, Luann de Lesseps explained what Dorinda had been going through, saying: "The need for John has kind of dropped off. When Dorinda's husband [Richard Medley] died, he was there to pick up the pieces. She has so much love for this person who helped in such a bad time of her life. And John was there. Listen, this is nothing against John. John is John. I feel like Dorinda's outgrown him."

Dorinda Medley wants someone to stay home with her

Dorinda Medley is looking for someone very different from John Mahdessian now. She candidly spoke about how much she has changed in the seven years of knowing John: "You change, and I think the thing about me is, I have changed so much," according to People.

Dorinda added: "The person that John met was probably different, period. Over the last seven years, you grow a lot."

She stressed again that she doesn't want a lifestyle around town, contrary to what John likes to do. According to People, she said: "This whole thing has been such a good process because it's made me really reevaluate. I want to be super selfish with myself. I need a house cat right now and he wants to be an outdoor cat. ... My kitty's going to stay home!"

While this must be a tough time for both Dorinda and John, we wish them all the best as they restructure their lives and find what's best for each of them.