The real reason we never hear about Julia Roberts' kids

There are some celebrity children who are seen out and about so often you could probably list off their middle names, shoe sizes, and zodiac signs by heart, but there are a few others who are so shielded from the spotlight you couldn't pick 'em out of a lineup if your life depended on it. Julia Roberts' trio of kids with her director husband, Danny Moder, fits firmly into the latter category. The twins and their little brother have been growing up away from the cameras, despite the fact that their mom has been a household name for decades. Here's why you rarely, if ever, hear about Hazel, Phinnaeus, and Henry Moder.

They don't know their mom is famous

To everyone else, Julia Roberts might be America's sweetheart and an Oscar-winning superstar, but to her three children, she's just Mom. The heralded actress told the Express in 2014 that her kids still hadn't heard about their mommy's claim to fame. "They don't know what I do for a living," she said. "That hasn't really entered their life yet. They are just little kids and I'm just their mom, so there's no coping with anything." She predicted that when they finally figure out their mother's status as a Hollywood icon, they'll be teenagers and "have stuff in their lives that's far more interesting than what their parents' jobs are."

Julia's movie star persona is separate from her as a mom

While Roberts' claims that her kids don't know what she does for a living, they definitely have an idea that she's someone important. The distinction is that that understanding somehow doesn't hold much bearing on their relationship with her as a mother. In an interview with Vanity Fair, Roberts illustrates this point with an anecdote about a time she was recognized in public while the kids were with her. "It was on a crowded street, and somebody noticed me, and then another person noticed. Somebody said as we were walking past, 'Oh, that's Julia Roberts.' We all just kind of kept going, and then Finn said, 'Yeah, my mom's Julia Robinson.' That's what gives you perspective. It could be Robinson, it could be Johnson, because it has nothing to do with me as a person."

Roberts, who self-identifies as a "soccer mom" also jokingly refers to her fame as "the legend" in an interview with Extra where she claims the children learned about her 2017 World's Most Beautiful Woman honor in the school library. The point is the kids know she's a big deal to someone, but to them, she's just mom.

The kids have shown zero interest in the family business

Perhaps it's because they're still too young (Hazel and Finn were born in November 2004, and Henry was born in June 2007), but the kids have shown no interest in making movies when they grown up. If anything, they might be heading for another realm of artistry. Roberts told E! News that the kids have shown an interest in music. "I have a violinist, a cellist, and a trumpeter," she said, adding that their top priority is school. In other words, don't expect them to sign a recording contract just yet. "They just want to get through fifth grade math," she joked. "That's all that's on their minds."

Julia's film roles are selected around her kids' schedules

Ever since she landed her $20 million dollar payday for Erin Brockovich, Julia Roberts has been one of the most powerful players in Hollywood. And along with having her pick of the absolute best roles, she also earned the flexibility of lining up parts around her children's schedules. And when that doesn't work out, she just demands that she be allowed to bring them along, like she did for Eat Pray Love in 2010 when "her husband and children were with her during the four months spent on location in New York, Rome, India and Bali," according to The Mirror.

This is a dynamic the kids definitely seem to enjoy as Roberts pointed out that when she spent more time away from them than she ever had before for August: Osage County, her daughter referred to it as "the dark time," according to People. So, something tells us Roberts will probably wait until Henry's safely off at college before returning to the intensity of those kinds of roles.

Roberts keeps a low profile around the kids

Spectators who have gotten a rare glimpse of Roberts out in public with her family—like at her children's sporting events—say she wears incognito gear like baseball hats, sunglasses, and clothes that help her blend in with the crowd. Even when spotted by fans, she reportedly politely declines autographs and kindly explains her request for privacy.

Roberts has also carved out a nice little small town niche for herself, sticking mostly around what The LA Times calls "the tony enclave populated with Pilates studios and juice bars" that is her Pacific Palisades community. Roberts herself admits that her incognito approach to public life is aided by chill neighbors. "The kind of energy I attract is very calm," said told The LA Times, adding, "People don't come up to me very often. Everyone is always in such disbelief that I can go to the market."

Her favorite family getaway is secluded

One of the family's favorite places to getaway is their desert ranch near Taos, N.M. "When Daniel and I first started dating, we went there a lot," Roberts told the Daily Mail. It's the place where they wed in 2002. "He feels the same way about New Mexico as I do; we love the quietude and enchantment, [and] now it's a great place for the five of us to run around and be together." Though they're not exclusively bound to their Southwest hideaway (they also frequent France), the isolated abode helps Roberts protect her family from prying eyes and let the kids be, you know, kids.

Mom and dad steer clear of social media

It's common to watch a celebrity's child grow up through their parents' social media accounts. Roberts and Moder have avoided platforms such as Twitter and Instagram, which means the public never gets that errant birthday party snap popping up on their feeds.

The actress told InStyle that she's well aware of what's happening online. "Listen, I don't have my head in the sand," she said. "I'm aware of the different outlets, however you label them. It's like people talking about a TV show: I can be perfectly aware of the TV show and the story, but it doesn't mean I watch it. I have other friends who watch it, and they tell me about it."

Roberts uses her social media indifference to her kids' advantage. According to USA Today, she even "managed the impossible: taking her entire brood to Disneyland without generating any headlines." The kids had an awesome, paparazzi-free day, and Roberts felt no need to tweet about it. "The strange culture of celebrity and the Internet age—I kind of am too old for that silly mess that goes on. I'm glad about that. It's helped that I'm definitely of a particular age," she said.

She shields her children from outsiders

Roberts and her husband make a concerted effort to keep their family bubble intact while still doing their jobs. "We try to protect our kids," she told USA Today. "We just want to have our family life and not have that intruded upon." Striking a balance between her public face and private life, she said, means sharing some details about her home life by finding "what can satisfy most people from me." It's a fine line to walk, but she's found a way to make it work.

She has a real fear that Hollywood changes young actors

Roberts has never specifically spelled this out, and we're assuming that Roberts feels like early fame for her kids could lead to the acting bug, but it's easy to tell by her interactions with her now-famous niece, Emma Roberts, that she's cagey about the effects of fame on young people. Emma has expressed on multiple occasions that she never really discussed the industry much with her aunt, instead focusing on "spending time with her kids and stuff like that," as she related on Watch What Happens Live. Emma maintains that the reason for this is so she can carve her own path in the entertainment world, free of anyone's opinion, even someone as famous and successful as her aunt. But how much harm could a little career advice really do?

Julia's interview with The LA Times sheds a little more light on the subject, as she admitted, "When [Emma] comes to stay with us, I always think, 'Please let her be the same' — and she is still the same magical girl she used to be," adding, "I think so much of it has to do with your intentions in taking on a business like this. If you have a pure view of what you want to accomplish, I think you can maintain your sense of self." With that kind of cynical eye towards child stardom, it's increasingly unlikely that Julia would risk sending her own kids down a potentially destructive path.