The Real List Of Celebs Who Have Open Relationships

Who says marriage has to only be between two partners? For this string of A-Listers, monogamy is just, like, a social construct, man. In fact, one of them believes that infidelity is as natural to human beings as their hair turning grey, which is a rationale we'd love to see someone shouting in objection to a furious ex lighting a match to a pile of clothes in the driveway. 

Anyway, these celebrity couples are totally committed to each other, but not at the expense of forgoing other partners, too — at least sometimes, and only if they're honest and up front with each other about it. Except for a certain country music megastar, who said she was cool with her husband stepping out on her so long as she never finds out about it. Huh? And if this all seems vaguely sketchy, welcome to the wonderful world of celebrities who admitted to having open relationships! It's about to get weird. 

In this open relationship, the mo' the merrier

Mo'Nique and husband Sidney Hicks have been open about their open marriage for quite some time. The Precious star told Andy Cohen on Watch What Happens Live in November 2016 (via E! News), "[The open marriage] was my idea. When we first had the conversation, it was because I was still in the mindset of, 'I'm an entertainer; I'm a performer and I want to have it all.' So I said, 'I want to have an open marriage.'"

She recounts that Hicks told her, "'Mo'Nique, we've been best friends since the tenth grade. Do you think that's going to stop us from loving one another?'" She continued, "It was just being able to sit down and have that dialogue to say, 'Hey, let's always make sure we're open and honest.' The rule is simply honesty. When you start asking people about relationships—What about this one? What about that one?—often times with people we can't say, 'This is how I'm feeling.' You find out, it's so not about sex. It's so not about, 'Can you be with other people?'" She added, "It's simply about I won't take any secrets to my grave nor will he take any to his. We've been married for a decade now."

One big happy family ... and mom's boyfriend

As of a March 2014 interview with the Daily Mail, actress Tilda Swinton was still close with her much-older ex-partner John Byrne, who is the father of her twins. But she'd lived with a much younger man, Sandro Kopp (above), since 2008, and doesn't think it's a big deal at all. And it really isn't, except for the fact that when we say "she's lived with Kopp," we mean in the same house as Byrne for several years. Awkward, right? Well, no actually. 

"It's all quite boring really," Swinton explained to The Mail. "The father of my children and I are good friends and I'm now in a very happy other relationship. And we're all really good friends. It's a very happy situation. Life doesn't have to be complicated. You just have to have compassion with yourself and stop blaming yourself when things do get complicated." Alrighty. 

How fresh is this prince allowed to get?

Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have endured years of open-marriage rumors, which they've alternated between denying and vaguely, potentially affirming. Pinkett Smith told HuffPost Live in April 2013, "I've always told Will, 'You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be OK.' Because at the end of the day, Will is his own man. I'm here as his partner, but he is his own man. He has to decide who he wants to be and that's not for me to do for him. Or vice versa."

A few days later, she wrote on Facebook (via E! News), "Should we be married to individuals who can not be responsible for themselves and their families within their freedom? Should we be in relationships with individuals who we can not entrust to their own values, integrity, and LOVE...for us??? Here is how I will change my statement...Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship...this means we have a GROWN one."

Pinkett Smith once again addressed claims that she was in an open marriage during a July 2017 episode of Watch What Happens Live when she admitted the craziest rumors she hears about her and Will is that they are both swingers. "It's constant," Pinkett Smith told host Andy Cohen. "I'm like, 'Yo, I wish. I wish!'"

Mr. & Mrs. Smith may have had company

Before their messy split in September 2016, Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt may have had an open arrangement. In 2011, Jolie told Germany's Das Neue Blatt magazine (via DailyMail), "I doubt that fidelity is absolutely essential for a relationship ... It's worse to leave your partner and talk badly about him afterwards. Neither Brad nor I have ever claimed that living together means to be chained together. We make sure that we never restrict each other." 

It's never cheating when you're in a different area code

Shirley MacLaine says that her marriage to husband Steve Parker worked because it was an open relationship. "I guess you would say 'practiced an open marriage' in 1954, which was another lifetime," MacLaine told People in March 2016. "No one understood it, we did. He lived in Japan basically, I lived in America working, and this and that. We'd meet up, always great friends, traveled sometimes together."

She added, "I think that's the basis for a long-lasting marriage, if you really want to do such a thing. I would say better to stay friends and we don't have enough time to talk about the sexuality of all. I was very open about all of that and so was he."

The couple were married for 28 years until their split in 1982, and she still refers to Parker as the "love of [her] life.

Dolly Parton might not even know she's in an open relationship

The Independent reports that Dolly Parton and the rarely seen Carl Thomas Dean, who've been married for 50 years, may owe their success to their open arrangement. She said in 2007, "If we cheat we don't know it, so if we do cheat, it's very good for both us. I don't want to know it, if he's cheating on me. If I'm cheating on him, he wouldn't want to know it. And if we do, if that's what's making it work, then that's fine too." However, Parton later told Oprah Winfrey that her remarks were taken out of context, saying, "We let each other be who we are and what we are, but I'd kill him if I knew he was with somebody and he'd kill me." 

To complicate things even more, Parton dished some dirt on herself in author Randy L. Schmidt's 2017 book Dolly on Dolly (Musicians in Their Own Words), confessing that she had "an affair of the heart" in 1982, but she refused to elaborate on it other than to say that it "just about killed [her]," and that she "cried an ocean" over it.  

As Winfrey would say, "So what is the truth?"

The lines of this allegedly open marriage got blurred fast

File this one under an alleged open marriage gone wrong: Star reports that Paula Patton and Robin Thicke had "a consensual three-way relationship" with a masseuse. However, Patton allegedly called it quits with the "Blurred Lines" singer when the lines between Thicke and the masseuse, well, blurred, and they allegedly had "a separate affair behind her back." Thicke's camp denied the claims. However, when Howard Stern (via The Daily Beast) asked Thicke if he has an open marriage, he replied, "Out of respect for her, we just won't answer that one."

Still, it's worth noting that after Thicke got busted with a much younger fan while Patton was in the same room, he told Hot 97 (via Entertainment Tonight), "[Cheating] is not why we're apart. We're apart because we just couldn't be together anymore for a while. There's a hundred different reasons, there isn't just one. There's a long list... I changed, and I got a little too selfish, a little too greedy and little too full of myself." If cheating wasn't the reason after he got busted, then maybe where there's smoke, there's an open marriage.

What does hooking up with the nanny have to do with grey hair? Let Ethan Hawke explain.

As of this writing, Ethan Hawke is married to Ryan Shawhughes, the ex-nanny of his children with ex-wife Uma Thurman. Though rumors of infidelity — with another woman, model Jen Perzow — swirled towards the end of Hawke and Thurman's marriage, he never explicitly confirmed or denied anything, despite Thurman telling Oprah (via People), "There was some stuff like that at the end."

Perhaps then, it comes as little surprise that he and Shawhughes seem to be open to an open marriage. In a 2013 interview, Hawke told Mr. Porter (via E! News), "My relationship with my present wife is thrilling to me and I'm committed to it, but neither she nor I know what shape the future will come in. Sexual fidelity can't be the whole thing you hang your relationship on. If you really love somebody you want them to grow, but you don't get to define how that happens. They do."

Though Hawke denied Shawhughes had anything to do with his split from Thurman, he added, "People have such a childish view of monogamy and fidelity...as opposed to a recognition that our species is not monogamous. To act all indignant, that your world has been rocked because your lover wasn't faithful to you, is a little bit like acting rocked that your hair went grey. Human beings are sexual beings."

So, is there a Just For Men: Cheater's Formula? We're a bit confused about Hawke's human nature analogy here.

There were no reservations in this relationship

After Anthony Bourdain died by suicide in June 2018, many cruelly pointed fingers at his girlfriend, Italian actress Asia Argento, who'd been photographed holding hands with a French journalist named Hugo Clement shortly before the celebrity chef's untimely passing. However, Argento insisted that the pair had an open relationship for the time they were together.

"People say I murdered him. They say I killed him," Argento told Daily Mail TV in a tearful interview in June 2018, admitting that she understood why people would search for answers as to why a beloved figure like Bourdain would take his own life. However, her alleged affair, was not what it seemed. 

"He had cheated on me too," Argento said. "It wasn't a problem for us. He was a man who traveled 265 days a year. When we saw each other we took really great pleasure in each other's company. But we are not children. We are grown ups." She added, "Anthony was 62, I was 42. We had lives, we had wives and husbands, we had children. I cannot think of Anthony as somebody who would do an extreme gesture like this for something like that."

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Wait, it's this Silicon Valley star who's in an open relationship?

Silicon Valley star Thomas Middleditch told Playboy that swinging saved his marriage to wife Mollie Gates (pictured above). He explained that it wasn't until after they tied the knot that he decided he wanted an open relationship. "I'd always thought I was a romantic and that when I fall in love, that stuff fades away," he said of his urge to have sex with other people outside of his once-monogamous relationship. "It does for some years — enough to be like, 'I should get married, and I'll be different.' But it's part of me. If that's part of your being and it feels important to you, find a way to explore it, because repression sucks."

Though Gates was game to find an arrangement that works for her and Middleditch, there are still plenty of bumps in the road. He continued, "We have different speeds, and we argue over it constantly, but it's better than feeling unheard and alone and that you have to scurry in the shadows." He also noted that they tend to trust one another more about meeting other potential partners in person than online.

"We're not off on our own; we're together, a unit," he said of their experience "in the lifestyle," which is what he calls swinging. "It's a perpetual state of management and communication, to the point where it's like, 'All right, we've got to stop. Chill.' I'm gas, and she's brakes. This is actually the premise for a comedy series we're writing together."