The Truth About Jill Duggar And Derick Dillard's Marriage

The following references sexual abuse.

The Duggar family has fallen from grace, due to the conviction of eldest son, Josh Duggar. As per The Sun, he was sentenced to over a dozen years in prison after being convicted of possession of child pornography. He and his wife, Anna Duggar, share seven children, and fans have had mixed reactions to her decision to stay with Josh in spite of his charges. Some feel that she should leave him and raise her children alone, while others, of the more conservative mindset, see her marital vows as indissoluble. Josh will serve out his sentence at the Federal Correctional Institution Seagoville in Dallas, Texas, which prohibits conjugal visits, as per a later publication by The Sun.

But Josh and Anna aren't the only married couple amongst the many Duggar children. Justin Duggar had fans worried when he proposed to now-wife Claire Duggar when he was only 17. Mind you, matriarch Michelle Duggar was only 17 when she married Jim Bob Duggar. John David and Abbie Duggar, less in the spotlight than the rest of the family, seem to be solid though they followed the family tradition of a quick engagement. Meanwhile, Jed Duggar and Katey Nakatsu got married with much less fanfare than many of their siblings. In fact, a huge population of their fan base didn't even know it was happening. Jeremiah Duggar married Hannah Wissmann in a sumptuous wedding packed with family, as we would expect of this crew. Meanwhile, there's Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard, who have a style that's veered away from Jill's conservative family.

To kick off the courtship, Jill Duggar and dad Jim Bob Duggar flew to Nepal together to meet Derick Dillard. The initial meeting was actually chronicled on their since-dropped TLC show, "19 Kids and Counting."  Of the first meeting, the future Mrs. Dillard said in People. "I traveled over 36 hours to meet him and we had a film crew filming and jet lag so it is a different dynamic than most people have. But it was really special. We enjoyed the first several days getting to spend time together and getting to see things together."

Jim Bob's presence on the trip certainly set a precedent for their courtship rituals, namely that none of it would be done alone. With as huge a family as the Duggar crew, coming up with a date babysitter wasn't a problem. "We have a large pool of chaperones," Derick said in a later issue of People. "It has been such a huge blessing to get to see her a few times a week."

Jill and Derick's courtship followed the lines laid out in "Growing Up Duggar," a book written by Jill and three of her sisters. This meant that Jill and Derick weren't physically intimate while they were discerning marriage. "When we say true love waits, we mean that couples should not act like they're married when they're not or share physical intimacies that married couples share," the Duggar women wrote. They didn't even hold hands until they were engaged.

Derick Dillard and Jill Duggar Dillard have a lot in common, especially when it comes to outward manifestations of their faith. The couple is deeply and publicly committed to international ministry, which should be unsurprising since the Duggar family first came across Derick while on a mission trip to Nepal. Not only that, but Jill and Derick plainly state on the front of their blog page that they're all about mission trips. "God has placed international missions on our hearts," the couple wrote. "We pray you'll be blessed as you hang out on our site and get to know us a little bit better!"

With a newborn baby in tow, son Israel David Dillard, Jill and Derick announced that they were going on a mission trip. "God has put a desire in our hearts to serve Him internationally for longer than the typical short-term mission trip," Derick wrote on their couple's blog (via People). "Earlier this year God brought about an opportunity much earlier than either of us was expecting." So in July 2015, the couple and their baby boarded a plane for a long-term mission trip.

But it's not all good wishes. In 2015, Radar reported some fans accused Jill and Derick of asking for donations to do missions only not to do actually do any mission-related work in the two months that they were away. To make matters even more awkward, their donation page offered refunds to those who had previously donated money to their cause.

While Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard are happy to share their sexual journey, fans have occasionally found some of these suggestions unsavory. For their fifth wedding anniversary, Jill shared several photos from their weekend getaway on Instagram. In addition to some cute couple selfies while taking in the sights of Branson, Missouri, they posted a black and white photo of a bedroom scene, including a candle, candies, and a Win It In A Minute Bedroom Edition, a series of games to get couples feeling playful and frisky. But that wasn't all. On the table, Jill and Derick had a copy of "The Little Black Book of Kama Sutra."

Their more conservative fanbase found the "Kama Sutra" an incongruous touch, so much so that Jill jumped back into her post to add the edit: "We are not recommending the Kama Sutra. We believe marriage is ordained by God and husbands and wives should filter everything they read and hear together through the lens of the Bible and not practice anything unbiblical."

Fans also jumped on Twitter to push back against some of Jill's other relationship tips, which included wearing makeup to bed. "Jill Duggar wants me to wear makeup to bed and a bunch of other weird stuff that will supposedly keep my marriage fresh," someone wrote. "Doesn't really mention all the things women should do to keep themselves happy, but whatev." Another fan wrote that her advice sounded too submissive. 

Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard ended up leaving the family's TLC show, "Counting On." For the record, the show had originally been called "19 Kids and Counting," but TLC decided to rebrand the reality show after allegations aired that Josh Duggar molested his younger sisters, per Deadline. Jill and Derick stayed on with the family's show until 2017, when they had to exit the series in the wake of some comments Derick made online.

Derick spoke out against "I Am Jazz" star Jazz Jennings, a transgender reality TV personality. "A 'reality' show which follows a non-reality," Derick posted online, according to New York Daily News. "'Transgender' is a myth. Gender is not fluid; it's ordained by God." Derick didn't stop there, despite the backlash he received. Rather, he dug his heels in and wrote that he felt pity for Jazz and said that she had been manipulated as a kid. "It's sad that ppl would use a juvenile this way," Derick said.

As such, TLC announced that they were cutting Derick's storyline from "Counting On." "We want to let our viewers know that Derick Dillard has not participated in 'Counting On' for months and the network has no plans to feature him in the future," the network stated. "We want to reiterate that Derick's personal statements do not reflect the views of the network." So that was the end of the couple's time on TLC.

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In October 2021, Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard shared with their fans that they'd gone through a miscarriage. As Jill shared to Instagram, the loss happened shortly after she found out she was pregnant with her third child, whom they decided to name River Bliss.  

Jill and Derick wrote about the tragic experience on their blog in a post called "Happiness Turns to Heartbreak," and shared that their two sons, Israel and Samuel, were psyched to become big brothers. "They were full of questions and so excited as we talked about the pregnancy and how they would get to be involved along the way and after baby was born," they wrote. 

Though they did not yet know the sex of the baby, they picked the name River Bliss, as they felt the name was universal. Jill and Derick landed on the first name River because they liked that it represented peace, tranquility, and life. The couple added, "And we chose Bliss for a middle name because our baby is living in perfect bliss with the Lord and was such a gift that brought immense joy and happiness to us even though only with us here on earth for a short time."

Derick Dillard's Twitter profile gives us a pretty clear picture of his identity. He writes in his bio: "Jesus follower, Husband, Father, OSU Cowboy, Razorback, Missionary turned attorney." Years ago, Derick obtained a degree in accounting from Oklahoma State University, per PopCulture, and nearly ten years later, went back to get his law degree from the University of Arkansas School of Law. Good for him. 

With Derick's new career, he and his family had to pick up and move. On Instagram on April 19, 2022, Jill announced that they were selling their home in Arkansas to start a new life. "Derick was recently sworn in as an attorney in Little Rock, AR and then started the transfer process for his new public service job as a prosecutor in Oklahoma!" Jill wrote on their blog. She added that their new home was in Siloam Springs, which is technically still in Arkansas but right on the border of Oklahoma.

In May 2022, Jill shared photos of their new home on Instagram, complete with charming yet simple renovations. "We are so excited to show y'all a sneak peek of our new house!!" she added in the caption, giving a shout out to the local painting crew who helped make their home ready. To make matters even more exciting, Jill was pregnant with their third child during the move, a son named Frederick.